You'll talk about what kind of behaviors are OK and are not OK when it comes to online relationships.
Help for Staff
Many people conduct their relationships offline and online. These relationships include friendships, online gameplay teammates, and dating, both offline and online. In this experience, members will think about the relationships they have online, reflect on some scenarios in which they may find themselves, and create a short “advice to themselves” video.
WHAT YOU'LL NEED
TIME: 10 MINUTES
Talk about the kinds of relationships that are conducted online
Think about all the people that you talk to online, which might include on an actual computer or even just through social media and the messenger apps on your phone. Online has many forms these days.
How did you become friends with these people? Are they people you know in person? Through online games only? Club staff will help you make a list of all the kinds of online friendships you have. You’re going to use this list to explore what’s "OK" and what’s "not OK."
Talk with your members about all the kinds of relationships they engage in online, which includes not only through the computer, but also through their various devices.
On a board, make a list of their answers so that everyone can see the range of friendships that people have through digital means.
TIME: 10 MINUTES
What are some go/no-go scenarios and why?
Think about your online relationships and discuss them with others. What are some things that are appropriate to do as part of an online relationship?
What should you never do? Why? What might happen if you did those things?
Ask members to discuss appropriate and inappropriate behavior for online relationships. Get them to consider the consequences of inappropriate behavior.
TIME: 20 MINUTES
Make a quick advice video
Pick one of the following scenarios and think about it. You’re going to make a short advice film to yourself: “Dear friend, this is what I recommend.” So, choose your scenario, find a quiet spot, pull out your phone and film away. If you don’t have a smartphone, ask a staff member to borrow a phone or video camera.
Scenario 1: Pretend a friend of yours is dating someone. They’re trading pictures back and forth, and your friend shows you a particularly revealing one that has been exchanged. What do you do?
Scenario 2: Pretend you play a game online. One of the other players, someone you think you know in real life, asks if you want to meet up. What do you do?
Scenario 3: You’ve been posting to a social media network for a while, and someone has been liking your stuff. They friend you, you friend them. Then, they ask if you want to date, “online." What do you do?
Now, make a video with your advice and responses. What do you recommend?
Lead your members through selecting scenarios for their videos. You can invent new scenarios if you’d like, and members can even make up their own. Then, ask them to shoot a short (30 seconds or less) advice video to the imagined audience. What should that person do in the suggested scenarios and why?
Members can film their advice video using whatever they have available. Many will have smartphones with video cameras. This is perfect. You may also have digital video cameras at your Club. These will work, too.
TIME: 20-40 MINUTES
Viewing and dialogue
This section is optional. If time permits, show your advice video to your friends and any Club staff who may be in the room with you. What advice do they have about how to respond more appropriately?
This section is optional, but rewarding. If time permits, help members show their videos to everyone in the room. What additional advice do others have to make the video responses even better? What opportunities for improvement do you see, given your role as a caring adult? What else could the respondent have done in these scenarios?
TIME: 10 MINUTES
Upload your advice video to the My.Future website.
Help your members upload their videos to the My.Future website.
Notify your staff that you've completed this activity!